How prepared are you before the final conclusion that makes you think, “I am ready for marriage!”
There are things you need to understand about marriage while you are still single.
I remember the time I was given jungle boots and a pair of tennis shoes at the NYSC Orientation Camp. The jungle boots was so tight that I had to exchange it with someone who had my size and managed the tennis shoes. After few days, I experienced pains at my feet due to the tightness of the tennis shoes I had with me. Though I didn’t change it with the thought that fitted tennis shoes would be good for the morning drills not knowing that it would cause an injury to my toes. I put it aside and used the one I bought.
Why am I narrating this?
This is to let you know that it’s not all that glitters are gold.
Then, at the NYSC Camp, there were some corps members that were given a fine jungle boots but were unable to use it throughout their service year. Why? This is because it’s not their size. They are not comfortable putting it on. Those who decided to use their owns gave it to those cobblers at camp to amend it for them.
From this illustration, I will say: Marriage is like a shoe.
When you wear oversize be ready to drag it along through out life, and when you wear under-size be ready to feel the pains through out life.
One thing about marriage is that you don’t drop your shoe or remove it at any point, no matter how painful or how stressful it is.
3 THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW
When you are ready to buy your own shoe please take note of these three things:
- Physical Appearance: Do not look for the beautiful ones, the nice ones or the cheap ones. Look for the one that is your size. Not every handsome, wealthy or intelligent guy is for you, not every beautiful woman is for you. Look for the one that is meant for you, the one that aligns with your values and belief, the one who you meet at your life’s journey. It is important to know where you’re going in life before you think of getting a life partner.
- Position: All sizes of shoes are not placed in the same place. There is a place for court shoes, laced up shoes, sport footwear, snickers etc. We have Children sizes, young people’s sizes and the adult sizes. Know where to get your own shoe. Your type and size cannot be everywhere. Your wife or husband can’t just be everywhere. Stick to your values and therein you shall find someone like you, but when your values are not defined anyone can just match you. Discover yourself and define your values.
- Perception: In this kind of shoe purchasing enterprise, you are not permitted to try the shoe before you buy. This is why it is important to seek guidance and counseling, from people who have bought shoes before or are into the business of directing people to the right shoes (Mentors and Relationship coaches).
And most importantly to avoid much time wasting time, simply consult the shoe manufacturer to tell you your size (God Almighty).
God knows the bone of your bones and the rib of your ribs. He knows your shoe size. The one that best fit. The one that aligns with your dreams.
May God choose for you in Jesus name. Amen!