#PostsWorthSharing: Married in School But Single at Home

Welcome to another edition of Posts Worth Sharing. This is a column featured on Channel of Virtue to educate, enlighten, inform and inspire young people, couples and parents, i.e. the entire family.

Today, I will be sharing a post that talks about an issue that concerns me and you. It’s happening on campuses in Nigeria. This is an issue some parents don’t know about and tackling this will help in raising youths of good moral standard.

I found this post originally posted on Whatsapp in one of the groups I joined. The post address how students live a couples’ life when they are not married. A life their parents are not awared of because they are singles at home but married at School.

Here is the post below:

Nigerian campuses where little girls are practising ‘wifely functions’!

Just visit the boys’ hostels and you would be disappointed to find out that it is now common for a girl to live in with a course mate. It is now common for her lover to give her the popular compliment ‘you look sexy my gal’ and she would gladly reply ‘thank you honey’ with a flirty voice and a romantic smile.

Who is her lover?
A 300 level student whose CGPA is barely up to 1.78! And they are aiming for the next best couple award for the session by the departmental association. So, the girl need to live in with him to prepare along.
What nonsense! It seems that some girls suddenly loose their senses immediately they gain admission. I’ve seen that some of them have no more sense of caution, honour and dignity.

They would change their wardrobes and acquire a new set of make ups just to look ‘campussy’ and sexy enough for the guys. In months, they would start sleeping around with
little boys. I mean boys who collect pocket money from their uncles! Dirty boys who most
of the time are infected with sexually transmitted diseases.

Hey! I want you to know that you were sent to school to obtain a degree not a disease. The campus is called a school; school not sex! You are on campus to receive education not ejaculation. You are here to master the use of a pen not the pleasures of a penis. Wake up girl! Do some thinking. Your future is greater than the ‘best couple award’.

You cook for a boy you are more intelligent than. Playing wife material, whether Ankara or lace only you sabi. You give your virginity to a boy who will most probably, leave you after graduation. You play wife roles to a boy who cannot even care for himself. Risk your school fees and life for nothing?

Oh, you have given too much. Enough! Open your eyes! Can’t you see you’re being foolish?
You are passing through the fears of unwanted pregnancies yet you are proud enough opening your legs to a coward who cannot stand before your father.

And when you eventually get pregnant, he would brutally advise you to abort it and you
would timidly agree; then face the consequences. What a shame! You may master the use of condoms but you can’t master the punishment of your conscience.

Don’t you know you are bringing shame to your family? Don’t you know you are cursing womanhood pain by selling your pride around?

I cautioned a girl against sleeping around and she replied ‘Raplann, I don’t sleep around; its only one boyfriend I have and am faithful to him’. What impunity! That’s classified harlotry. And don’t you know that sleeping with a man without your father’s blessings is bringing a curse to your future?

What happened to your cultural values?
Somewhere in your heart you know he would use and dump you; so why set yourself up for a heartbreak or blame your village people when you sowed the seed? Why create the burden of long skirt to different churches and prayer houses in search of solution to a problem you can nip in the Bud?

The greatest gift a lady would give to her husband on the wedding night is her virginity except in the case of rape not the certificate of best couple of the year on campus!
The other gifts for the rest of her life are her care and character not her curves and complexion! Real men know this; so, get it
screwed in!

Those treacherous boys would call you ‘sexy’ and you would answer? Oh, sorry! They touch
your breast and you smile? They would ask you out and you would oblige? Oh, you are
indeed a mistake. I am not saying you should be rude or abstain from living a ‘social life’ but I want you to think deeper than you are currently doing. I want to turn your attention back to your books and to the gap you are born to fill ( the reason for your existence).

You are not in school for breast exhibition. So, pay less attention to those boobs and give more attention to your books! You are not in school for cat walking show. You are rather here to show us the dignity of womanhood. You are here to prove to us that you are costly. So, why make yourself so cheap?

I am writing this with both love and pain in my heart and that’s why am sounding stern. I know about two girls now that have been living with their boyfriends since year one and they can’t even count how many abortions
they’ve had for that same boy and it’s now like a normal thing to them. The last one she did
almost took her life and that made her bleed for 4 months, imagine how you do feel with ordinary 4 days of menstruation left alone living with it for months. As a matter of fact one of them have damaged her fallopian tube due to excessive use of contraceptives she has taken to prevent pregnancies. I want you to look beyond now and think of what advise you would give your own daughter when you become a mother.

I hope I have not offended you? If I have, please forgive me and repent.

To the decent girls I have seen on campus: do not be swayed by these evil. Be consistent and
keep celebrating your purity. I am always proud of you. And God is more proud of you.

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About Olabode Adediya

Olabode Adediya (Bodjetstar) is the founder of Channel of Virtue. He is the host of The Great Value Show, an personal development podcast. He is an Author, Writer, Motivational Speaker and Content Creator. Connect with him on social media @Bodjetstar.


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