Case Study: Why Mothers Should Not Defend Their Kids

Many children today are spoilt as a result of showing unnecessary love by defending them from being corrected when they did something wrong. Such children later regret when they start seeing the implications of being over-pampered.

Mostly, mothers defend their children than the fathers.

Why should mothers stop defending their children?

Why should they stop over-pampering them when they do something wrong?

Why should they be corrected instead of defending?

These questions will be answered with this Biblical quote:

Spare the rod, spoil the child.”

Some parents do not know that when they refuse to discipline their children, they will bear the consequences it in the nearest future.

It is better for you to correct them when they do something wrong than to defend them thinking that you love them.

I have seen a mother who fought her neighbour because her child was flogged for doing something wrong. Likewise, I have seen a mother who flogged her child more when she heard what her child did.

Some parents do appreciate it when their children are being corrected while some don’t give chance for that. They believe that it’s there own rights alone to correct their children, no one should even report their children to them. They never know that they are giving their children that orientation of freedom of behaviour which can be good or bad.

Let me tell you a short story as a case study:

When I was little boy, my younger sister offended me and I flogged her. While she was crying, one of our neighbours interfered in the matter and flogged me to correct me.

He said, “Why can’t you wait for your parents? You supposed to report her than beating her.”

I thought telling my mother would make her to defend me when I told her what happened. I didn’t know that she was in support of what the man did.

She took me to the man and said, “Prostrate flat on the ground and tell him thank you sir.”

I didn’t refuse but to do exactly what she asked me to do. I prostrated flat on the floor and thanked him.

Since then, I learnt to make peace with my siblings, especially my younger ones.

Also, I learnt not to misbehave in the absence of my parents thinking they would defend me like other parents do.

In conclusion, you should not over-pamper your child. Discipline them when they do wrong. Don’t let them feel they will be defended when they do something wrong or when they are reported.

When you defend your child from being corrected, you are spoiling them.


About Olabode Adediya

Olabode Adediya (Bodjetstar) is the founder of Channel of Virtue. He is the host of The Great Value Show, an personal development podcast. He is an Author, Writer, Motivational Speaker and Content Creator. Connect with him on social media @Bodjetstar.


4 thoughts on “Case Study: Why Mothers Should Not Defend Their Kids

  1. Interesting take. I believe in discipline but not punishment. Especially corporal punishment. Do you think your mothers point could have resonated had she taken a different approach?


    Posted by Toni | May 10, 2018, 6:57 AM
  2. Interesting. Thanks for sharing.


    Posted by John Eli | May 10, 2018, 4:45 PM

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