In marriage, disagreements are inevitable. No matter how peaceful a home is, situation that can cause argument can occur. The way you handle it really matter.
Young people are affected by their parents’ arguments. This is an issue of concern, since your marriage is, in effect, a model that your children are likely to follow if they marry. Why not use disagreements as an opportunity to demonstrate effective ways to resolve conflicts?
This article will show you how to effectively communicate with your spouse without argument. These are tips that will help you to nurture your marriage.
HOW TO STOP ARGUING WITH YOUR SPOUSE
In order to stop arguing with your spouse, try the following:
Listen. The Bible tells us to be ‘swift about hearing, slow about speaking, slow about wrath.’ (James 1:19) Even if your spouse seems unwilling to listen, you can choose to do so. Listening will help you communicate better.
Strive to explain rather than criticize. In a calm manner, tell your spouse how his or her conduct has affected you. Speak in a wise manner. Resist the urge to accuse and criticize. It is better to say, “I feel hurt when you….” than saying, “You don’t care about me.” No one love being criticized.
Take a time out. Sometimes it is best to drop the matter and resume the discussion when tempers have cooled down. Avoid what will leads to argument by controlling yourself. It is advisable to leave the matter when you are still boiling and focus on what will make you happy in order to cool your temper. You should not let hot temper affect your health. This will save you from high blood pressure. “The beginning of strife is like releasing water; Therefore stop contention before a quarrel starts.” (Proverbs 17:14)
Apologize to each other. If appropriate, to your children. One of the most valuable lessons you can teach your children is how to humbly say, “I’m sorry.” That simple words solve complex issue. Don’t feel too proud to apologize. Showing humility will bring you honour.