Life, Parenting

A Virgin But Defiled

Girls, especially under 20s, nowadays are living a life that is not worthy of a Godly home. They are already doing what their parents are not aware of.

Is it their faults or their parents?

Many years ago, parents would mislead their children, most especially the girls, that if they were touched by any male, they would become pregnant. Then, mothers thought that’s the best way to guide their daughters from unwanted pregnancy. They were hiding the truth from their daughters. They never knew that their daughters were smarter than them because they wanted to know about it but their deceived them.

They lacked the girl child education. They didn’t know anything about sex.

The knowledge they needed on sex education was not given. They were ignorant.

Their ignorance led them to those who revealed that their parents were deceiving them.

They discovered that when were touched by boys they were not pregnant, they didn’t believe what their parents told them about being impregnated.

Nowadays, young people are so much exposed and their parents know less. What their parents supposed to let them know but refused, which they were ignorant of, is what they practise now that their parents are also ignorant.

They are influenced by their peers, the society and the media. They want to feel among.

Let’s look at the short funny story below as a case study:

Titi and Demola were the only children of Mr. & Mrs. Johnson.

Titi was a 16 year old girl, who was brought up as a Christian. Her parents did not want her to relate with opposite sex. They didn’t want her to have anything with other boys.

Her elder brother, Demola, was 18 years old. He was a gentle and soft-spoken boy loved by his colleagues. He didn’t like playing with girls, even though they always come to him.

Her parents were spiritual and never miss any church activities. They believed their children were also spiritual to the extent that they ignored their friends who were of opposite sex (in their presence).

It was six o’clock in the evening when Titi was dropped by a young boy, who was in his early twenties.

They alighted and stood by the gate to discuss for few minutes.

The boy was about to leave when he asked, “Can I kiss you?”

“Not now, I’m at home.”

He insisted, but she didn’t agree.

She was about to leave him when he held her right hand, “You were too sweet in bed today.”

She smiled and felt excited, “Woooow! You too. I could not believe we did it three times!”

He pulled her closer and said, “Let me kiss. Before I leave.”

She looked around to see if someone was watching and replied, “Someone may be watching, they still think I’m a virgin at home.”

This went on for few minutes, until Demola, her brother, appeared at the gate and said, “Dad said, ‘Whether you kiss him or not, it’s your decision, but tell that bastard to remove his hand from the intercom button, everyone in the house is listening to your conversation and you have disturbed the prayer session.’ Ok?”

In conclusion, be a friend to your children than becoming a disciplined parent whose children are influenced by the pleasure of the world outside your home.

Move closer to them and relate with them well. Know a lot about them than just paying their school fees or feeding.

You are a channel of virtue to your children, and you have to instill that virtue into them. Let them possess the traits that distinguish them as a responsible child from a responsible home.

Your children are your images outside, let them represent you well. They are your ambassador.

Don’t leave them for destruction. If God cannot leave the world alone for destruction by sending Jesus Christ to die for us, what are you doing today to save your child from destruction?

This question for discussion is:

From the story, what would you do if you were the parents?

How can we help children not to go astray with sexual immorality?


About Olabode Adediya

Olabode Adediya (Bodjetstar) is the founder of Channel of Virtue. He is an advocates for positive parenting and healthy family lifestyle. He also believes in personal development by hosting "The Great Value Show". He is an Author, Writer, Motivational Speaker and Content Creator. Connect with him on social media @Bodjetstar.


4 thoughts on “A Virgin But Defiled

  1. Men and women 20 and older are adults.

    Many people are not religious or spiritual, and do not wish to live “godly” lives, as that concept is outdated.

    Two consenting adults choosing to have sex is not sexual “immorality”.
    It is normal, natural, and healthy.


    Posted by Amanda | August 21, 2018, 3:33 PM
    • Amanda, you are right because you said, “Men and women 20 and older.”

      The Bible says, can two walk except they agree? Therefore those above 20 are matured enough.

      That’s why I referred to teenagers.

      Thanks for contributing.


      Posted by Bodjetstar | August 22, 2018, 7:57 AM
      • The Bible is a religious text of a religion that I do not practice, so what it says does not apply to me (or to the MANY people who are not Christians).

        Consensual sex between two teens or two adults is not immoral, in any way.


        Posted by Amanda | August 22, 2018, 4:42 PM
  2. I agree that we should get to know our children better.

    Liked by 1 person

    Posted by avanowling03 | August 28, 2018, 11:22 AM

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