This topic must have been exhaustively written on or discussed by different experts in many discussion forums.
However, for the benefit of all, let me define marriage as MARRY-AT-AGE. This invariably means coming together of matured man and woman consenting to become husband and wife.
Maturity in this context is viewed broadly under such headings as: Physical, Spiritual, Economical, Emotional, Social etc.
Let’s briefly take a look at these four major types of maturity in that will help you build a long lasting relationship.
This has to do with the biological age of the man or woman, size not withstanding.
Here we should be looking at the man being at the minimum age of 25 years and 22 years for the lady. Anything earlier than this is neither here nor there.
You must be sound spiritually. There are some problems that cannot be solved physically but spiritual.
When you are matured spiritually, you will be able to help each other when one of you is going stray. You will know what will happen beforehand and be prepared. You will have the fear of God of which you will not want to hurt your partner.
Marriage means the beginning of a new family and its attendant responsibilities, makes it imperative that the man and even the woman must have attained some economic stability. This is required for some degree of stability though not absolute.
The union which is for adult is not always rosy. Even roses do not exist without thorns.
Therefore, going into it must be very prepared emotionally for the unavoidable ups and downs of life.
Before the coming together of the man and woman as a couple, the contracting parties coming from different social strata of the society and varied family background would have acquired over time some notes for compatible behavioural patterns.
This is the time to make some adjustments and sacrifices and it calls for maturity.
Maturity is not by age, because someone who is 25 years of age could be more matured than that of 35 years.
Therefore, develop yourself in all ways and show that you are matured physically, spiritually, economically, emotionally and socially.